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How to Give Feedback and Why I’ve Been Doing It All Wrong by Patrick Riley (Medium Article)
The Feedback Fallacy by Marcus Buckingham and Ashley Goodall (Harvard Business Review article).
- Telling people what we think of their performance does not help them thrive and excel, and telling people how we think they should improve actually hinders learning.
- Extrapolating from what creates our own performance to what might create performance in others, we overreach.
- Your brain responds to critical feedback as a thread and narrows its activity [...]. The sympathetic system lights up. This is the "fight or flight" system.
- Learning rests on our grasp of what we're doing well, ot on what we're doing poorly, and certainly not on someone else's sense of what we're doing poorly.
- We learn most when someone else pays attention to what's working within us and asks us to cultivate intelligently.
- If you study failure, you’ll learn a lot about failure but nothing about how to achieve excellence. Excellence has its own pattern.
- If we continue to spend our time identifying failure as we see it and giving people feedback about how to avoid it, we’ll languish in the business of adequacy.
- Whenever you see one of your people do something that worked for you, that rocked your world just a little, stop for a minute and highlight it.
- There’s nothing more believable and more authoritative than sharing what you saw from her and how it made you feel.
Chapter 10. Emotional intelligence by Goleman.

Goals

Why Shouldn't Share your Goals (medium)
- What Gollwitzer found was that when individuals set a goal that is closely tied to their identity and then share their intentions with others, they are less likely to achieve the goal.
- Imagine their congratulations and their high image of you. Doesn’t it feel good to say it out loud? Don’t you feel one step closer already? Like, it’s already becoming part of your identity? Well, bad news. You should have kept your mouth shut. That good feeling makes you less likely to do it.
- When we openly share our goals, we experience a feeling of success that normally only takes place upon completion of the goal. The result? We don’t ever actually pursue the goal.
https://www.ted.com/talks/derek_sivers_keep_your_goals_to_yourself (Ted talk)

Objectives and Key Results (OKR)

Listening

People will sometimes have excellent ideas and other times will have stupid ideas. Either way, taking the time to respectfully listen sends the message that people are valued and respected. Being open and inviting ideas from others will increase empowerment in your team.

Criticism

Helpful criticism is about making the world better. Unhelpful criticism is about making yourself feel better.

https://medium.com/personal-growth/4-things-emotionally-intelligent-people-dont-do-24ea6ea53992

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 * [[Leadership]]
 =External=
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 * [https://www.infoq.com/presentations/brain-science-teamwork Love the Brain You’re in by Kate Gray and Chris Young] (InfoQ Talk)
 * [https://www.infoq.com/presentations/habits-refactoring-psychology Incrementally Refactoring Your Habits with Psychology by Tilde Ann Thurium] (InfoQ Talk)
+=Interview Process=
+==Generic==
+* Interview Well for Your Next Incredible Engineering Role https://levelup.gitconnected.com/interview-well-for-your-next-incredible-engineering-role-a5513e6596ae
+==Coding==
+* Get that job at Google http://steve-yegge.blogspot.com/2008/03/get-that-job-at-google.html
+* Google software engineer interview: the only post you'll need to read https://igotanoffer.com/blogs/tech/google-software-engineer-interview
+* Coding Interview University in GitHub: https://github.com/jwasham/coding-interview-university#books-for-data-structures-and-algorithms
+* Google Coding Interview with a Normal Software Engineer https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rw4s4M3hFfs
+* [[Coding Interview Resources]]
+==System Design==
+* [[System Design Interview Resources]]
+==Behavioral==
+* https://igotanoffer.com/blogs/product-manager/why-google-why-amazon-why-facebook-interview-questions
+* [https://medium.com/free-code-camp/why-you-should-ask-questions-at-your-next-tech-company-interview-5070384dc5a0 Why you should ask questions at your next tech company interview by Angela Zhang] (medium.com)
+=Offer Negotiation=
+* Do your research:
+** LinkedIn salary tool
+** Glassdoor
+** https://www.levels.fyi/
+** https://salary.com
+** https://payscale.com
+** https://H1Bdata.info
+* Notes on iCloud Personal → Professional → Next Job → Offer Negotiation.
+* [https://www.ted.com/talks/ruchi_sinha_3_steps_to_getting_what_you_want_in_a_negotiation Three steps to getting what you want in a negotiation] by Ruchi Sinha
+* LinkedIn webinar https://www.linkedin.com/video/live/urn:li:ugcPost:6857373409496702976/
+* [https://medium.com/free-code-camp/ten-rules-for-negotiating-a-job-offer-ee17cccbdab6 Ten Rules for Negotiating a Job Offer by Haseeb Qureshi] (medium.com)
+* [https://medium.com/free-code-camp/how-not-to-bomb-your-offer-negotiation-c46bb9bc7dea How not to bomb your offer negotiation by Haseeb Qureshi] (medium.com)
+* Harvard Business Review - On Negotiation PDF Personal → Professional → Learning → Emotional Intelligence and Soft Skills
+==Exploding Offers==
+* [https://angel.co/blog/how-to-deal-with-exploding-offers What To Do When You're Faced With An Exploding Job Offer] AngelList Blog
+* Search for "How to approach exploding offers" in [https://medium.com/free-code-camp/ten-rules-for-negotiating-a-job-offer-ee17cccbdab6 Ten Rules for Negotiating a Job Offer by Haseeb Qureshi] (medium.com)
+=Communication=
+* [https://hbr.org/2016/03/how-to-disagree-with-someone-more-powerful-than-you How to Disagree with Someone More Powerful than You by Amy Gallo] (HBR)
+* <font color=darkgray>(TODO) [https://hbr.org/2015/01/the-art-of-giving-and-receiving-advice The Art of Giving and Receiving Advice by David A. Garvin and Joshua D. Margolis] (HBR)</font>
+* <font color=darkgray>(TODO) [https://getpocket.com/explore/item/how-to-have-difficult-conversations-when-you-don-t-like-conflict How to Have Difficult Conversations When You Don’t Like Conflict by Joel Garfinkle] (HBR)</font>
+* [https://medium.com/personal-growth/11-things-socially-aware-people-dont-say-f0a5d01c0b8c 11 Things Socially Aware People Don’t Say]
 =Giving Feedback=
 * [https://medium.com/gan/how-to-give-feedback-and-why-ive-been-doing-it-all-wrong-3a83cd17a896 How to Give Feedback and Why I’ve Been Doing It All Wrong by Patrick Riley] (Medium Article)
+* [https://hbr.org/2019/03/the-feedback-fallacy The Feedback Fallacy by Marcus Buckingham and Ashley Goodall] (Harvard Business Review article).
+** Telling people what we think of their performance does not help them thrive and excel, and telling people how we think they should improve actually hinders learning.
+** Extrapolating from what creates our own performance to what might create performance in others, we overreach.
+** Your brain responds to critical feedback as a thread and narrows its activity [...]. The sympathetic system lights up. This is the "fight or flight" system.
+** Learning rests on our grasp of what we're doing well, ot on what we're doing poorly, and certainly not on someone else's sense of what we're doing poorly.
+** We learn most when someone else pays attention to what's working within us and asks us to cultivate intelligently.
+** If you study failure, you’ll learn a lot about failure but nothing about how to achieve excellence. Excellence has its own pattern.
+** If we continue to spend our time identifying failure as we see it and giving people feedback about how to avoid it, we’ll languish in the business of adequacy.
+** Whenever you see one of your people do something that worked for you, that rocked your world just a little, stop for a minute and highlight it.
+** There’s nothing more believable and more authoritative than sharing what you saw from her and how it made you feel.
+* Chapter 10. Emotional intelligence by Goleman.
+=Goals=
+* [https://medium.com/swlh/why-you-shouldnt-share-your-goals-be13fbe352d2 Why Shouldn't Share your Goals] (medium)
+** What Gollwitzer found was that when individuals set a goal that is closely tied to their identity and then share their intentions with others, they are less likely to achieve the goal.
+** Imagine their congratulations and their high image of you. Doesn’t it feel good to say it out loud? Don’t you feel one step closer already? Like, it’s already becoming part of your identity? Well, bad news. You should have kept your mouth shut. That good feeling makes you less likely to do it.
+** When we openly share our goals, we experience a feeling of success that normally only takes place upon completion of the goal. The result? We don’t ever actually pursue the goal.
+* https://www.ted.com/talks/derek_sivers_keep_your_goals_to_yourself (Ted talk)
+{{Internal|Objectives and Key Results (OKR)|Objectives and Key Results (OKR)}}
+=Listening=
+''People will sometimes have excellent ideas and other times will have stupid ideas. Either way, taking the time to respectfully listen sends the message that people are valued and respected. Being open and inviting ideas from others will increase empowerment in your team.''
+=Criticism=
+Helpful criticism is about making the world better. Unhelpful criticism is about making yourself feel better.
+* https://medium.com/personal-growth/4-things-emotionally-intelligent-people-dont-do-24ea6ea53992
+=Influence with Data=
+=BS=
+* [https://www.theguardian.com/news/2017/nov/23/from-inboxing-to-thought-showers-how-business-bullshit-took-over From inboxing to thought showers: how business bullshit took over]
+* [https://www.theguardian.com/books/2013/apr/25/top-10-worst-management-speak 10 of the worst examples of management-speak]
+** "going forward"
+* https://www.vulture.com/2020/02/spread-of-corporate-speak.html
+=Miscellanea=
+* Likability https://forge.medium.com/some-people-dont-like-you-and-that-s-okay-14a310af1c81
+* https://forge.medium.com/31-important-things-you-should-say-no-to-for-a-happier-life-a34a1e947579

Soft Skills: Difference between revisions

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Contents

Internal

External

Interview Process

Generic

Coding

System Design

Behavioral

Offer Negotiation

Exploding Offers

Communication

Giving Feedback

Goals

Listening

Criticism

Influence with Data

BS

Miscellanea

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